Relationship Advice: Do not become the "practice girl."

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Urban dictionary's definition of a "practice girl" is described as being a female who is fat/ugly/large/unattractive, that is used for sex in order to gain experience or practice for "someone better." Guys do not see these females as being relationship material. These girls do not matter to the ape-heads that use them. Basically, these guys use unsuspecting females in order to become better at their game, and prepare for something better to come along.

Women face a lot of heart ache when they are "pumped and dumped" by a guy that they thought cared about them. For the most part, many of these ape-heads are acting in this way in their teen years/early 20s. Unfortunately, ladies, a few of these guys remain stunted in this behavior after ages 30, 40, 50, and so on.
If you've been single for a long time, or if you are fresh and vulnerable out of a relationship, these guys may crawl out from the ground and try to trap you. I understand that being alone can be lonely, and all you want is to be touched and to feel beautiful. Hooking up with an ape-head is not the way to go about it. Many of us females equate sex with love. If a guy is offering you sex on a platter, he isn't offering you love. Being single is a time to work on yourself and become stronger. Don't let these a**holes deter you on your journey, no matter how cute they are, and no matter what they say.
Some of these ape-heads may be cleverly disguised as friends (or former hook-ups from your younger days). They may have casually entered your life after a break-up. Both of you may have talked a bunch and found you have a lot on common. Then they bring up your last tryst. They proposition you with a "friends with benefits" deal.

Recently, I came across a former hook up from my 20s. He and I talked about common interests and such. Then he brought up hanging out so he can get more practice and experience. Then, he said something like this:
"The last time we hooked up I ended up in a relationship shortly thereafter... that's good enough reason to lol. If not you'll still benefit from it."

Any temptation that I had was out the window after that. I haven't messaged the guy back. Why? Because I deserve better than that. I've only been single for a little less than 2 months. This is ME TIME. Am I lonely? Yes. However, I'd rather be alone in a corner with a puppy, than to waste my time with someone that is going to treat me like I'm less than human.

Ladies, if you find yourselves in a similar situation, RUN. You deserve so much better than that. You are not fat, ugly, large, etc. You are NOT a practice girl. Tell the ape-head to use his practice hand to help him prepare for the big leagues.
As for feeling lonely, that feeling will disappear once you learn how to love yourself. I'm smack dab in the middle of my journey to loving myself more. While I am not there yet, I know I deserve better respect. As far as being seen as fat/ugly/large/etc., people are going to talk. It's what I answer to that counts. I may not be everyone's cup of tea, but the people who do love me for me are the only ones who matter.

*mic drop*

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