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photo credit: tomcruisecrazy Remember in the 2000s when TomKat was a thing? Tom Cruise jumped on Oprah's couch, like a batsh*t crazy f*cktard, declaring his undying love for Katie Holmes. Katie Holmes would coo about Tom Cruise and how lucky she was to find her true love. They married, had a daughter, and then they divorced. Of course, we all know that Tom Cruise had sucked Katie Holmes into his tangled cult of Scientology. We had to endure some rather disturbing photos of Katie Holmes being all submissive and defeated. Some years later, the clouds parted, and Katie Holmes once again felt the sunshine of common sense caress her face. She saw the error in her ways, and dropped Tom Cruise like a bad habit. Fast foward to 2015. It appears that Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes never speak to one another. When it comes to co-parenting their 9 year old, they utilize an intermediate. Some have wondered if the Scientology "church" does not allow Tom Cruise to speak to ...

photo credit: lagranciudad I don't know about you, but I have been noticing a rise in women who have been marrying themselves. Women go through the normal marriage routine. Only difference is, they are promising to love, honor, and obey: themselves. Yasmin Eleby of Texas did just that after her 40th birthday. Eleby pledged that if she hadn't gotten married by the time she turned 40, she would marry herself. She got married on January 3, at the Houston Museum of African American Culture. She had 10 bridesmaids and a large cake. Her sister, who happens to be a minister, officiated the ceremony. For those of you who were wondering, self-marriage is not legal in the US. Still, Yasmin Eleby wanted to commit to her happiness, which is something I find extremely empowering. photo credit: blacksportsonline My Two Cents: I find it absolutely beautiful when a woman vows to be happy with herself. There are so many negative messages in this world, and so many r...

photo credit: womensforum Once a woman enters her late twenties and then her 30s, people around you begin to talk about babies. They wonder why you haven't had a child. They wonder why you aren't married. They wonder if you're just asking to have a child with "defects (due to holding off motherhood until later in life)." Well, I just want to send out a big "fuck you" to those who can't mind their own business. Speaking as a woman approaching her mid-30s, I'm sick of hearing folks tell me that, in a few years, it will be too late. Has anyone ever heard of waiting until you're ready? Yes, my biological clock has been ticking, and it's annoying as hell. I just want to be ready for motherhood, and, right now, I'm not ready. See, I was born out-of-wedlock (which people like to blame on me because they're right-wing assholes), and since my adolescence, I've vowed to not have babies outside of marriage. When I tell people ...

I'm not sure if any of you have seen this show, but channel FYI has this new show called "Married at First Sight." Relationship experts paired up 6 young singles with people who experts believe are their "ideal match." The 6 individuals don't get to meet their "ideal match" until their wedding day. The pairs say 'I do' and go on their honeymoon. Two of the couples end up getting "close" during the honeymoon, the other couple ends up taking it slow. After the honeymoon, the couples come home and find a place to live. The experiment lasts about 6 weeks, then the couples sit with the experts and determine whether or not they will stay married or get a divorce. Let's get to know the couples: -The first couple, Monet Bell and Vaughn Copeland, have a lot of sexual chemistry. However, they lack communication. When ever they do communicate, they argue. I don't see this couple staying together when the experiment ends...

A lot of engaged couples want to choose a wedding day that has some sort of significance, they all want that lucky day. There was quite a scramble for couples to marry on 7/7/07 (in fact, a dear friend of mine married her husband on that day). Looks like 12/13/14 will be no different. In what looks to be a wedding clusterfuck, tens of thousands of couples are currently scrambling to reserve the best that Churches and reception halls have to offer before time runs out (check the calender, folks. T-minus 5 months and counting for all you engaged folks). One of the engaged couples that chose 12/13/14 as the "big day" was interviewed, and explained why they chose that day : " I wanted to have a cool wedding date. I always wanted a winter wedding, so I originally picked Dec. 6. But that wasn't cool, and when I found out that 12/13/14 fell on a Saturday, I knew I had to pick it. We started planning as soon as we got engaged last September. " *yawn* ------...