I (ME) Wed: Women who marry themselves (Empowering or weird?)

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photo credit: lagranciudad

I don't know about you, but I have been noticing a rise in women who have been marrying themselves. Women go through the normal marriage routine. Only difference is, they are promising to love, honor, and obey: themselves.

Yasmin Eleby of Texas did just that after her 40th birthday. Eleby pledged that if she hadn't gotten married by the time she turned 40, she would marry herself.
She got married on January 3, at the Houston Museum of African American Culture.
She had 10 bridesmaids and a large cake. Her sister, who happens to be a minister, officiated the ceremony.
For those of you who were wondering, self-marriage is not legal in the US. Still, Yasmin Eleby wanted to commit to her happiness, which is something I find extremely empowering.
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My Two Cents:
I find it absolutely beautiful when a woman vows to be happy with herself. There are so many negative messages in this world, and so many reasons why women feel bad about themselves. When a woman stands up and proclaims that she is "perfect the way she is," and "she is enough," it deserves to be celebrated.
I think every woman should commit themselves to their happiness. It doesn't matter if they are married, single, in a relationship, etc., we need to be 'on our game' so we can be there for the people in our lives.

Would I ever marry myself? If I never get married, I'd probably do a tiny commitment ceremony. Just me, a bottle or two of wine, some food, and some music. It would be low key.
I do hope I get married someday. Still, I need to be on my game so I can be there for those that I love. If I don't get married, that's totally fine. I'm not exactly an easy person to deal with (number of health issues, stubbornness, a little wacky, etc.), but I know that the right man will accept me for who I am. I wouldn't want to associate myself with people who want to change me. People who demean those I care about, issues I support, or where I shop, I don't have time for people who are absolutely closed-minded and pig-headed.
I'm lucky and blessed to have a great man in my life. He knows absolutely everything about me: from my tough upbringing, to now. I don't like secrets, so I don't hide anything from him.
He doesn't judge me. If only everyone in this world was that cool.

Anyways....
Ladies, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with wanting to marry yourself. Like I said before, there are a lot of messages out there that put us down. When we can stand up and proclaim that, "despite all the bullsh*t, I am enough. I love who I am and I don't care who knows it," no power on this Earth can destroy us.

Yasmin Eleby, I salute you! You are beautiful, vibrant, strong, and kick a**! Congratulations and I hope you had an awesome honeymoon!
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