In honor of National Coming Out Day..
Today, October 11, 2015, is National Coming Out Day. It is a day where the LGBT community and allies come together to support one another with 'coming out.' National Coming Out Day started 27 years ago, on the anniversary of the National March on Washington for Gay and Lesbian rights.
The Human Rights Campaign honors everyone who comes out as LGBTQ, or as a straight ally.
I spent my early childhood liking boys. I had my crushes, and had my heart crushed. When I entered 7th grade, I became friends with a cool girl. I started to have feelings for her, which most people knew about. I kept everything silent as I got older, as I was constantly teased about my weight and mental illness. I didn't want to be teased for liking girls too.
In college, things were a little easier. I met a few females, but I primarily dated guys (I was still a little scared to go fully in to dating females).
In my late 20s, I met a woman off the internet. We dated for a month before things ended badly.
When I was 29, I started dating a man, and we fell in love. We broke up in September of this year.
During my relationship, I did have some regret. What if I married this dude and never got to fully embrace this other side of me? What if my soulmate is a woman? I had these thoughts during the last 6 months of our relationship (none of this contributed to our break up, however. My physical limitations were the main contribution to the break up).
Recently, I saw a movie called "Boy Meets Girl," which stars Michelle Hendley, an mtf trans actress. I instantly crushed hard on her. I began to realize that I wouldn't be opposed to becoming romantically involved with an mtf trans woman, as long as the woman wasn't an a**hole. LOL! I began wondering if this still made me bisexual, or if I was something else. It turns out, I have some pansexual tendencies.
With all that said: Hi, I'm Shauna Silva, and I am bisexual with some pansexual tendencies.
Normally I wouldn't label myself as anything, but for the sake of National Coming Out Day, I wanted to let other Bisexual/Pansexuals know that they aren't alone.
One of the things that I often get stigmatized about, and I know I'm not alone here, is the fact that people think bisexuals are greedy. Folks, while that might be true for some bisexuals, it isn't for me. I'm very monogamous. If I'm dating a woman, I won't be checking out a dude and wanting his frank and beans. I'd be wanting the woman I'm dating. Simple as that.
Now that I am single, it's not like I'm hooking up with this girl, or that guy. I was in a serious relationship for over 3.5 years. I'm working on me so I don't bring baggage into my next relationship.
Do I have a preference as to who I would date? Yeah I do. They have to be a good person. That is all.
For more information on National Coming Out Day, click here.
The Human Rights Campaign honors everyone who comes out as LGBTQ, or as a straight ally.
My story:
I spent my early childhood liking boys. I had my crushes, and had my heart crushed. When I entered 7th grade, I became friends with a cool girl. I started to have feelings for her, which most people knew about. I kept everything silent as I got older, as I was constantly teased about my weight and mental illness. I didn't want to be teased for liking girls too.
In college, things were a little easier. I met a few females, but I primarily dated guys (I was still a little scared to go fully in to dating females).
In my late 20s, I met a woman off the internet. We dated for a month before things ended badly.
When I was 29, I started dating a man, and we fell in love. We broke up in September of this year.
During my relationship, I did have some regret. What if I married this dude and never got to fully embrace this other side of me? What if my soulmate is a woman? I had these thoughts during the last 6 months of our relationship (none of this contributed to our break up, however. My physical limitations were the main contribution to the break up).
Recently, I saw a movie called "Boy Meets Girl," which stars Michelle Hendley, an mtf trans actress. I instantly crushed hard on her. I began to realize that I wouldn't be opposed to becoming romantically involved with an mtf trans woman, as long as the woman wasn't an a**hole. LOL! I began wondering if this still made me bisexual, or if I was something else. It turns out, I have some pansexual tendencies.
With all that said: Hi, I'm Shauna Silva, and I am bisexual with some pansexual tendencies.
Normally I wouldn't label myself as anything, but for the sake of National Coming Out Day, I wanted to let other Bisexual/Pansexuals know that they aren't alone.
One of the things that I often get stigmatized about, and I know I'm not alone here, is the fact that people think bisexuals are greedy. Folks, while that might be true for some bisexuals, it isn't for me. I'm very monogamous. If I'm dating a woman, I won't be checking out a dude and wanting his frank and beans. I'd be wanting the woman I'm dating. Simple as that.
Now that I am single, it's not like I'm hooking up with this girl, or that guy. I was in a serious relationship for over 3.5 years. I'm working on me so I don't bring baggage into my next relationship.
Do I have a preference as to who I would date? Yeah I do. They have to be a good person. That is all.
For more information on National Coming Out Day, click here.
